What do you like?

[SpriteMeister]

This is a more specific "getting to know you" type thread where you post and hopefully discuss what you find attractive in a partner. You can put both physical and mental qualities, including things like personality, philosophy, appearance, gender, build, age, etc. The idea is to get some insight as to what people find attractive and perhaps why they find it attractive.

I assume most people on this forum are comfortable talking about this sort of thing, considering the frequency of raunchy jokes and the presence of "Professor Orangey's Health Class".


So, I suppose I'll start. As Orangey has said in a discussion we had outside the forums, I have a very modern taste in women. I like them thinner than what I consider the average tastes of our society (although not quite as thin as what the media wants our girls to be), and prefer them to be younger and shorter than myself (I'm not as picky about height). Though I certainly don't mind other hair colors, red hair is 'effin' hot, even when artificial. I also seem to have a thing for gothic styles as well, and I'm not sure why.
For personality, I like nerds and artists: the kind of girls that would get along well with my friends. I have, from previous relationships, realized that they can get too weird, however (And yes, Orangey, "relationships" is pluralized).
I haven't really put much thought in what I expect philosophically/religiously, but as most people, I of course feel more comfortable around those whose beliefs match my own. I'm not against my partner being religious per se, but if they aren't tolerant of my agnosticism then it obviously won't work out.

I don't want this first post to be any longer than it already is, so I'll leave anything else up to questions/clarification and discussion, etc.


Retrospect: God, this sounds like a freaking dating agency now. Ugh.

[Silfedac]

I got some...odd misconceptions, when first reading the title. I'm not going to post here (besides this, obviously) for a day, to see what happens.

[SpriteMeister]

I almost held off my info to see people's reactions first, but I figured that they'd be more likely to open up if there was an example, and that I'd wind up posting that information anyways.

I'll also consider changing the title.

Edit: changed.

[Pieman]

What was the title before?

[Silfedac]

"What does it for you?"

[Amanda]

Chris does it for me.... er... I like Chris.

[Mystery Fish]

The only times I've really given this a decent amount of thought have been in the early hours of the morning when talking to friends about anything and everything. I don't really have a preference (that I know of or can think of at this very minute), I guess I just stand right next to them and breathe down their neck until I've made a decision. By which time the police are already on their way, so it makes no difference whether I like them or not.

But no, seriously, I decide more on the spur of the moment more on individual people than a "prerequisite", as it were, based on personal preferences; not that it actually matters seeing as nobody would have me anyway.

[/emo]

Personality-wise, I tend to look for people similar to me. My last girlfriend was similar to me personality-wise, but other parts of her personality were just... Kind of... Not the sort of thing I'd look for in a partner. Easily jealous (deep-seated compliment of some sort? Heck knows), over-protective, and somewhat smothering. Then again, maybe I'm just really laid-back.

[MagicParakeet]

I have bigger things than relationships on my plate for now, but I would say my soulmate must cope with my ego-tastical über-nerdiness. The only real relationship I've had deflated over the fact I wanted to play Tony Hawk and watch Dr. Who instead of cuddle or kiss. Yes, I am the ladies man.

[Drakey]

Hmm.... In a girl, I guess what I want is for her to be....

Ummm... My friend Sarah, basically.
Sara was the epitome of "things I like about girls" for me, except that she was a little too short, but all her other qualities overrode it.
She was cute as a button, funny, smart, kind, gentle, caring, and for some reason, she genuinely liked me.
Unfortunately, she also had a boyfriend at the time that we knew each other, and we have since lost touch with each other.

In a guy, as far as personality goes, I want the same basic things. But looks are a little different, and somewhat of a wider margin. I don't want, for instance, like a massive bodybuilder type, and I tend to gravitate towards people built somewhat like me, but in the end, I'll accept a lot more in the looks department from a guy than from a girl.

Don't ask me why, I don't know.

My main requirement for a relationship, though, is that I have to be able to have a conversation that wanders across all topics, is full of subtle little jibes, and outright insults, is intellectual, ridiculous, and all things in between, and, despite the sniping, I have to genuinely enjoy the conversation.

[Silfedac]

Well, for me, I find several things attractive:
1: Power.
2: Intelligence.
3: A good sense of humor.
4: A personality similar to mine.
5: Hawtness.

Not necessarily in that order.
In fact, it's closer to:
4
2
3
5
1

[Pieman]

Laughter Prone, intelligent, Personality, Sense of humour, Looks. That order, I think.

[Orangey]

Chris does it for me.... er... I like Chris.

Aww, that's simultaneously cute and maddeningly ambiguous as Hell.

My main requirement for a relationship, though, is that I have to be able to have a conversation that wanders across all topics, is full of subtle little jibes, and outright insults, is intellectual, ridiculous, and all things in between, and, despite the sniping, I have to genuinely enjoy the conversation.

You totally think we're dating don't you? O.o

[Silfedac]

You mean you aren't?

[SpriteMeister]

But no, seriously, I decide more on the spur of the moment more on individual people than a "prerequisite", as it were, based on personal preferences

I'm not saying that these are my prerequisites, it's just that they are the things I find particularly attractive. If I were to find a good-looking blonde who I (and my friends) could have a decent conversation with (with qualifications similar to Drakey's), I'd happily go out with her, even though she wouldn't necessarily be my ideal woman.

My last girlfriend was similar to me personality-wise, but other parts of her personality were just... Kind of... Not the sort of thing I'd look for in a partner. Easily jealous (deep-seated compliment of some sort? Heck knows), over-protective, and somewhat smothering. Then again, maybe I'm just really laid-back.

Oh, god. That sounds like my ex, except without the "somewhat". She's an otaku gone schizophrenic, and she was obsessed with me. (She seemed so normal when I first met her...)
And I'm not just saying that because we broke up; her other "personalities" were a regular part of her social life.

[Silfedac]

A Schizo you say?

[the Scarf]

Relationships....*Sigh*
Haven't really been in one of those for awhile....

I could go on about what attracts me to people, but I've discovered that both of the people that I was attracted to most recently were for the same reason. The reason being....We liked the same webcomics.
Weird, right? But it's true! Last year, When I was a chorus member in 'beauty and the beast' at my school, I started talking to this dude from the band. (he offered me a cookie.) One of the first things he mentioned was Kukuburi, which is a webcomic I had found a few days ago. The more we talked the more we found that WE READ THE SAME WEBCOMICS. And so ensued about a month of me going to the bandroom for lunch to hang out with him. Of course, webcomics weren't the only thing he had going for him. He was decent enough on looks, but mostly, he was really polite to me, and I don't usually have people paying attention to me at all, so it was just..nice. This was last year, though, and I was a Freshman....He was a senior, so it was like....ohsnap.

Anyways. Recently I was talking to this other dude and the topic of webcomics came up. Again, many of the same. This is not such a good story, as I spent a few days going 'OMG maybe?' before I figured out that he's actually just nice to everyone and already has a girlfriend.

It's a good thing I'm good at squelching crushes.
Anyways, the main thing that will attract me to someone is shared interests. I have a very, VERY wide range of obscure things that I like, and it's hard enough to find people who share them. When I find other people who do, if they are reasonably nice, I will probably like them.

[MagicParakeet]

I'm far from a relationships expert, but I do know that one should prusuit relationships for allies not strong mutual feelings. Also, try to reveal major personality traits or semi-signifigant facts about yourself early in any relationship. I figured this out on my own fairly recently so don't tell me if this is trivial.

[Torg]

I'm far from a relationships expert, but I do know that one should pursue relationships for allies not strong mutual feelings.

Umm...we're talking about interpersonal relationships here, not international relationships.

[Silfedac]

It's been a while since I had a crush. Matter of fact,I think I've only had one, back in the fourth grade.

[Pieman]

I've never actually had a girlfried.

I mean girlfriend!

[Mystery Fish]

I've had a girl fried.
Like a Mars Bar.

[Pieman]

I'd say more like chips.

Lots of them.

[Silfedac]

Heck, I've never even been on a date.

[Pieman]

I've never actually had a girlfriend!

[Mystery Fish]

Heck, I've never even been on a date.

Think yourself lucky. The last 'date' I planned with a girl got pwned (no wonder I'm single ) when she got all bitchy and decided to take control of the event; telling people who they could and couldn't bring with them, and then inviting more people who would inevitably bring even more people.
Suffice to say the 'date' never happened.

[Torg]

Does multiperson dating (well, two is technically multiple but you know what I mean) even count?

[Mystery Fish]

It was originally just meant to be me and her, but then she decided to invite someone, so I invited someone, and then she told the person that I invited not to bring any friends with them, even though she invited someone else who always brings other people with them.

Tl;dr, it was meant to be two people, got out of hand.

[Pieman]

At least you've had the chance to have a date go out of hand.

[Mystery Fish]

Trouble is, most all of mine tend to go that way.
I'd much rather have never gotten involved with her in the first place, to be honest.

[MagicParakeet]

1 girlfriend for 1 week. We watched Young Frankenstien and went bowling. Thats my (pathetic) love life. Love makes me sad.