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« on: November 08, 2007, 11:39:10 PM » |
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Hey guys, it seems that I have reached a point in my life where I need a girlfriend to remain sane. I have never had a girlfriend before and, have terrible speaking and social skills. Do any of you guys (or gals) know anything on how to find someone and then talk to them? Much abliged.
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Orangey
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« Reply #1 on: November 09, 2007, 12:01:10 AM » |
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Possibly your problem is you're the kind of person who goes onto a comic forum to solicit advice/relationships. Get out into the fresh air, lose some weight, pick up a sport, compromise your principles, en-main-stream-ify yourself, and work on your locution. You'll have a girl-friend in no time.
Tongue-in-cheek aside, there's no way to wave a wand an get a girl-friend; it just happens. Additionally, you are what, six-teen? Get some perspective. One, you have years ahead of you; not getting a girl-friend now won't kill you. Two, high-school romances are statistically doomed to failure. And three, relationships don't solve every-thing; for want of a better phrase, mellow out, and enjoy your years of free room and board and limited responsibility. It's nice; don't clutter it up too much.
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« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2007, 01:25:11 AM » |
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I know most of that already. I'm usually the anti-social wacko type, but after a few plans out of my control were laid out, I just got really lonely. I figured if I could find someone to converse with, I'd be fine. Well, one thing led to another and that brings me here. Notice how right now I am subconciously satisfying this need for communication by having this longwinded conversation in the first place. I'm a wreck right now.
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Orangey
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« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2007, 09:51:19 AM » |
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Well, if that's the case, then you should just find some friends; friendships tend to last longer and are generally more satisfying at your age. Try to find a club you're interested in; Tech club is generally nice and doesn't have much in the way of dues; the speech team is a good choice even for, actually especially for, some-one with limited social and communication skills: the structured environment gives ample opportunities to interact and practice speaking with-out any of the awkwardness of real social interactions; depending on your interests, you might even want to try your local equivalent of Earth club.
Point is, if all you want is some-one to talk to, you don't need to try to get a girl-friend right away; later in life, you'll want your first relationship to have been special, not just the first girl you can get.
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"Now prop your lazy bones on those getaway sticks and shake a leg, mister! Everyone get in the flivver or this trip's for biscuits, see?"
-Hysterical Dame, MSPaint Adventures
"I'm fed up with this orgasm!"
-Stan, American Dad
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Amanda
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« Reply #4 on: November 09, 2007, 12:34:28 PM » |
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Orangey is telling it like it is and giving good advice. You can't go from zero to girlfriend really fast. If you are truly anti-social you are going to have to take baby steps to reach out and get that interaction with others. The key to everything is confidence. How do you really feel about yourself? If you feel like you are a loser who doesn't deserve friends or a girlfriend, others will feel that and stay away. So start working on that by doing things for yourself. Like Orangey said, getting out, getting exercise, accomplishing new things. Then join in on new activities, push yourself to try and strike up a conversation with someone new. Like I said, it takes baby steps and PRACTICE. You can't magically go from anti-social to Mr. Social. Bottom line, you need to get out and do this face to face. The internet doesn't count and IS NOT (no matter how much people try to convince themselves otherwise) a substitute for real human connection. Good luck to you!  |
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #5 on: November 09, 2007, 02:13:46 PM » |
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Well guys, I made baby steps....backwards. Ratchet and Clank Future: Tools of Destruction and a case of IBC Root Beer. I'm not seeing the sun for a few days.
Also, this could just be the normal fit of depression I usual get at the end of the year. Anywho, this could also be proactive to my life anyway. Viva la getting my lazy patootie in motion.
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Amanda
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« Reply #6 on: November 09, 2007, 03:38:01 PM » |
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You normally feel like this each year? Have you talked to your parents, or been treated in any way for depression?
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« Reply #7 on: November 09, 2007, 06:48:51 PM » |
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Do a barrel roll/Suicide Only Option/PIHB.
Okay, now that I've gotten that out of the way, grow a pair and try to talk to people. I was anti-social at one time too, ya know.
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Orangey
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« Reply #8 on: November 09, 2007, 11:38:36 PM » |
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Actually, lately I keep hearing advertisments trying to recruit test subjects for a study to test a new drug to treat a disorder called (and I kid you not) SAD. Seasonal Affective Disorder; basically, you manifest depressive and/or suicidal tendencies, but only during the winter. It even has its own wiki article! Additionally, even if it turns out your problems are entirely clinical, it would probably still be nice (and healthy) to try new things and make new friends. Especially the speech team part. Support your local speechies. Or else! Besides, it's fun. On a lighter note, Ratchet and Clank is one of the few shooter series I actually enjoy. Unfortunately, the PS3 has so far proved itself unworthy of being a $400 purchase, so no R&C for me. PS, thank you Amanda. |
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"Now prop your lazy bones on those getaway sticks and shake a leg, mister! Everyone get in the flivver or this trip's for biscuits, see?"
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"I'm fed up with this orgasm!"
-Stan, American Dad
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Silfedac
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« Reply #9 on: November 10, 2007, 12:18:03 AM » |
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I would probably be of little help here. I'm one of those guys who's pretty outgoing and makes friends easily. I also have more interest in just hanging with friends than with getting a girlfriend for now. 'Sides, I don't see anything wrong with holing up with a videogame or even (read: espescially) a good book.
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We're talking about CROTCH BEARDS.
I don't want the world, I just want your half. |
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Amanda
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« Reply #10 on: November 10, 2007, 07:43:56 AM » |
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Actually, lately I keep hearing advertisments trying to recruit test subjects for a study to test a new drug to treat a disorder called (and I kid you not) SAD. Seasonal Affective Disorder; basically, you manifest depressive and/or suicidal tendencies, but only during the winter. It even has its own wiki article! That is exactly what I thought of when he said it is normal for this time of year. SAD is a very real thing and can be horrible. But even if someone doesn't have it depression can be seasonal or come back in patterns. PS, thank you Amanda.
welcome Be well Rocket, I hope you feel better. |
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Silfedac
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« Reply #11 on: November 10, 2007, 01:08:12 PM » |
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Some thing I want to add that I thought was weird and is relevant to the conversation: More suicides occur around Christmas than any other time of the year.
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We're talking about CROTCH BEARDS.
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« Reply #12 on: November 10, 2007, 02:31:40 PM » |
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Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships in high school are over-rated. Sure, it may be nice to have someone to lock lips with, but if you had any friends, it will more then likely start to alienate them.
I'm pretty anti-social, but I do have some friends that drag me out (quite literally at times) and hang out with them. I made my best friend from high school just by mentioning a movie that we both liked. Before that, she hated me. lol.
Also, even if your friends are of the opposite gender, I would advise you staying away from dating them. I'm a girl (note the picture) but I actually connect with guys a lot more. Yet, dating them would create more stress then it's worth and your friendship would crumble.
How to get friends? Everyone has their own way. I'm into theatre so being in a play with someone, I get to see them at their worst. Either we click, or we don't. Clubs are a good way to meet friends, as it's been mentioned before, or you just might wanna sit down next to someone you think you would be friends with and just start up a conversation. It may be hard, but (hopefully) in the end, you'll have a friend that will stay with you until the end.
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #13 on: November 11, 2007, 08:06:40 PM » |
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I've had a re-realization that has made me feel a load better. Despite the fact I'm anti-social, litteraly cursing out people in the halls, and overall non-conformist; I am the most popular person in my school. Yes, the gaming nerd is more popular than the football players and cheeleaders. Most of the teachers know me, even ones I havn't met. How the HELL does that happen? I don't care 'cause I feel good and I'm singing James Brown. You know what, that right there is a good example of my non-conformaty.
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #14 on: November 11, 2007, 08:14:03 PM » |
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I perfer James Brown over all of the junk on the radio nowadays. It's good to be me. (Sorry 'bout the 2 posts. I'ms on da PSP!)
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Orangey
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« Reply #15 on: November 11, 2007, 08:16:05 PM » |
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Well, I'm certainly glad to hear you're feeling better than you were.
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"Now prop your lazy bones on those getaway sticks and shake a leg, mister! Everyone get in the flivver or this trip's for biscuits, see?"
-Hysterical Dame, MSPaint Adventures
"I'm fed up with this orgasm!"
-Stan, American Dad
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2007, 10:17:10 PM » |
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Thanks for that wiki article Orangey. It's bad enough that I hardly see the sun any other time of the year, but I'm also white as a ghost (thank you Russian heritage) and live in the cold void of Pittsburgh; one of the crappier cities in winter. Oh well, here's to sunny days. BTW, this can explain why I get really depressed at night. Love ya guys. |
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Orangey
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« Reply #17 on: November 11, 2007, 10:45:09 PM » |
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Happy to help.
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"Now prop your lazy bones on those getaway sticks and shake a leg, mister! Everyone get in the flivver or this trip's for biscuits, see?"
-Hysterical Dame, MSPaint Adventures
"I'm fed up with this orgasm!"
-Stan, American Dad
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Silfedac
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« Reply #18 on: November 12, 2007, 05:00:04 PM » |
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Woo hoo! Sunny days chase the blues away once again!
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We're talking about CROTCH BEARDS.
I don't want the world, I just want your half. |
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Spartan-117
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« Reply #19 on: May 16, 2008, 10:56:12 AM » |
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wehey!
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Pieman
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« Reply #20 on: May 16, 2008, 11:25:41 AM » |
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Most of the teachers know me, even ones I havn't met.
When I was in the juniors, I don't think there was anybody who didn't know my name, pupils included. The problem is I struggle loads to remember anyones names; it took me about a year and a half to remember all of the people im my tutor group's names. |
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That is because you are the bestest and the awesomenest.
You become incredibly well-muscled and accidentally crush Pel's head. |
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #21 on: May 16, 2008, 05:29:02 PM » |
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I feel ya man.
In case anybody cares, I got a girlfriend now. wee
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Pieman
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« Reply #22 on: May 16, 2008, 05:35:57 PM » |
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Good for you.
I don't.
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That is because you are the bestest and the awesomenest.
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Spartan-117
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« Reply #23 on: May 16, 2008, 05:54:20 PM » |
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"hahahahhahah"
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« Reply #24 on: May 16, 2008, 07:40:04 PM » |
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In case anybody cares, I got a girlfriend now. wee Whoo!  |
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« Reply #25 on: May 16, 2008, 07:53:07 PM » |
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I feel ya man.
In case anybody cares, I got a girlfriend now. wee
nice one so this....female crab whats she like (if yoo dont mind ) |
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #26 on: May 16, 2008, 09:20:57 PM » |
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She's real nice. Mabey too nice for me........
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« Reply #27 on: May 16, 2008, 10:20:28 PM » |
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Does she smoke?
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Spartan-117
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« Reply #28 on: May 17, 2008, 04:06:59 AM » |
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nobody can be too nice for MagicParakeet
maybe your too nice for her..
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MagicParakeet
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« Reply #29 on: May 17, 2008, 08:55:27 AM » |
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Does she smoke?
Not that I know of. Yet again I haven't asked. |
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